Momma's still got her brains + creativity too!

I just read an interesting and relatable article about the much touted concept that after you have kids you lose your ability to focus, remember things etc-I have heard it referred to as 'mommy brain' and many feel that along with giving birth all the blood that nourishes the brain goes out the birth canal never to return (OK some even say that you lose your mind). Well, I have to admit at times I certainly feel this is true, not for the blood loss reason, but more so because I have more things on my plate/more responsiblities than I did before and probably most significantly because I DON'T GET ENOUGH SLEEP!



With that said, the article did a nice job of reminding and reframing for me that contrary to popular belief, having kids gives you purpose and motivation to actualize your goals and dreams. For me, I realized that because I have a constantly happy, exhuberant, passionate child who sees a world filled with possibility and magic, he constantly reminds me to embrace and enjoy everyday, every moment to the fullest. Basically, I am saying that having a child inspires and reignites creativity, rather than squashing it and I think I need to use this momentum and energy to move forward instead of using it as an excuse to hold me back. It's just a matter of how you look at it, and today I was reminded that the starry-eyed wonder of a child's mind is my gift and motivation to go for it and enjoy the ride!



I hope this idea helps you shift your perspective on motherhood and embrace the magic in your own mind.



Warmly,

Romy
Goddess of Spring Awakening

This Mom's Trying to Find Her Creative Soul

I am so lucky to have to have such a compassionate and hands on hubby, who encourages and supports all that I do--even the crazy indulgent and wacky things. My hubby (I call him Hubbs) is so on board with this whole groove thing and I love it. He gets that I need my time and space to nuture myself, my creativity and my passion and these things take time. When you have kids (I have only one four year old), they are a top priority and demand your immediate time and attention and because of that, your own needs get put on the back burner and the more kids you have the more your own needs get stuffed down.


This idea about losing your mojo on some level after having kids has been playing around in my mind for the last four years. Because I was a sex therapist in a former life, for years friends and colleagues have always mentioned this challenge to me in one way or another and asked for advice or input--and these converstaions in conjunction with my own struggles (basically I feel that my creativity and inspiration have been slowly diminishing over the last 4 years) lead me to this idea of creating something to address these issues--a workshop, book or online resource--to help women stay passionate, sexy, creative and alive after having kids.


So this blog is being 'born' at the same time I am designing this workshop and trying to get it off the ground, and in this free forum I plan to share ideas, thoughts, exercises, and get reactions and desires from mothers who are trying to recharge their creative batteries and are looking for a resource to help them do it. I plan on offering insights, tips, resources and useful information that will change the lives of mothers everywhere and make them feel like a goddess again.




Stay tuned for more,


xo Romy
Goddess of Trying to Find Her Creative Soul (Again)

Momma's Getting Her Groove Back.....

This is the first posting of the Momma's Groove site. My wife Romy's got Groove, and all her friends and all of our family know it. They all ask how she does it and what is going on in her mind. Here - she will tell you......

The thought here is that once you (Mom's) get married, have a kid, and get "trapped" in the world of playdates, errands, chores, blah blah blah - you lose yourself, you lose your identity, and simply put, you lose your Groove.

We (the husbands) love that you care for our offspring (or help us care for them). We love that you are great Mom's. We love that you do all the stuff around the house and schedule our plans and social lives. We still, with all that said, want you to have your own things and get your Groove Back. When we first met you, you were busy doing your thing (whatever that might have been). You had your circle of friends (hopefully still do) and had your interests and hobbies, some of which I admit, we still to this day don't understand. On a tangent, please just put the pictures of my kid in a photo album, without having to go away for a weekend to Scrapbook Camp to "create art" for the pictures. Sorry, back now. Ok....

The idea here is that Romy is going to help you, help yourself and your family. That's right, I the husband, and talking about how by you finding your Groove, you will be actually helping your family. The idea is very simple - a happy Mom = a happy family. We the husbands want happy, involved, mentally stimulated wives. This, while day one seems a little counter-intuative actually benefits the entire family. This post will help you, the Mom's, and ultimately feed down to the Dad's..

Stay Tuned - Romy will start soon.......... In the meantime, tell us your concerns, how you lost your groove, where it went, how we can help.......

Gotta run, the laundry buzzer just sounded........See you at pickup.